I have been on hiatus from writing for a few months now and I have felt guilty about it the whole time! I was in a space that blocked my creativity and never gave me time to delve into the recesses of my mind to find inspiration. I am out of that space now as evidenced by my re-emergence into the blogging world.
In the past I have written about bad relationships of the romantic kind. Today I am writing about bad relationships, the work related kind. Jobs for most of us are a necessary evil, something we have to do to pay the bills, provide for ourselves according to the basic fundamentals of “Maslows Hierarchy of Needs” and also to give us something to show for that expensive education our parents paid for.
Of course some jobs are brilliant and satisfying and inspiring and enriching but those are not the jobs I am writing about today, today I am writing about the jobs that cause your nerves to be permanently on edge, your anxiety levels to shoot through the roof and your doctors’ bills to sky-rocket. The kind of job that when the clock strikes 5pm on a Sunday your countenance falls and your mood dips because in a few hours it will be Monday.
But why do we feel that way? Usually it’s not the work we do but the people we work for or with that make our jobs miserable. Evil bosses who spend their time plotting how they can add more work to your already unbalanced pile or colleagues that think they are characters in the film Mean Girls or boys. I have worked in my fair share of hell holes. The one who didn’t think it necessary to pay me at the end of a month spent lying to debt collectors to protect his ass; another who specialised in calling staff late at night to give them a shouting about something they had no idea about; the other was mentally unstable and had paranoid delusions that everyone was out to get her and of course there was the one who was mean just because she could. Most times I was able to put on my big girl panties and plod through these crazy working conditions but I must say, little bits of me were chipped away over the years.
Sometimes people have terrible home lives and when they come to work they want to share the misery by making their colleagues equally miserable. Often we find ourselves paying for the sins of a cheating wife or loser husband without even knowing it. Lack of satisfaction in the trajectory of ones career can turn that chirpy new intern who always has the bright ideas the boss loves into a target for abuse and victimisation. Lazy colleagues who always avoid work can also make your life miserable by continuously finding ways of getting you saddled with the work whilst they get the praise when all they do is regularly play immature mind games for shits and giggles. Its hard staying motivated in an environment where your boss will use any opportunity to berate or humiliate you.
Even though jobs like life were never meant to be easy, they are certainly not meant to be a torture chamber where we spend our lives being stretched to breaking point and racked over hot coals. A job should be challenging but enjoyable and satisfying, not merely a means to an end.
Many of us are in professions which were pre-determined by our parents because they wanted us to be a doctor or a lawyer, some of us chose a career path that promised to be lucrative whilst most of us just do whatever work we can find at the time. Whatever the case, if your job makes you unhappy and is destroying your personal relationships whilst ruining your health, LEAVE! Find another job and get out.
Bad jobs are just another form of a bad relationship because they
- Destroy your self-esteem and confidence,
- Ruin relationships with your family,
- Damage your health,
- Create dependency which stops you from moving onto another job for fear you will fail there as well and maybe you deserve the bad treatment,
- Make us abusive and bitter – what goes in must come out.
Staying in an environment that no longer welcomes you can lead to the situation deteriorating to the point where you might be fired before you are ready to go, or lose control and have a violent outburst followed by a dramatic quitting scene… “You can’t fire me, because I quit!!!!!!!!!!” To be honest it’s not worth losing your dignity over.
Just because one company doesn’t appreciate you, doesn’t mean there is no place out there that is looking for someone just like you! And hey, if that doesn’t work out, you can always be your own boss and start a business where you can create your own perfect environment doing what you love and are good at whilst receiving the ultimate reward of satisfaction.